Understanding Anger in Motherhood and Business: What It’s Really Trying to Tell You

Let’s be real—juggling motherhood and running a business is a wild ride. And if you’ve ever found yourself snapping at your kids after a long day of back-to-back calls, client fires, and decision fatigue… you're not broken. You're not a bad mom. You’re just carrying too much.

During an episode of The Mom Founders Table is a deeply personal one. My husband Eric—who went from an overwhelmed, angry dad to a grounded, thoughtful parent coach—joined me to unpack the real root of anger in parenting. Not just surface-level venting. We’re talking about the core of it: why we explode, what our bodies are trying to tell us, and how to finally break free from the cycle.

Why High-Achieving Women Snap

So many high-performing entrepreneurs (myself included) are conditioned to push through. We normalize stress, pride ourselves on doing it all, and convince ourselves we’re fine… until we’re not.

That anger? It’s usually not about the spilled juice or the sibling fight. It’s about what’s unprocessed. The unmet need. The emotional overload we’ve shoved down all day.

Entrepreneurship demands a lot. Motherhood demands more. And when we don’t create space for our nervous system to regulate—we erupt. Anger is often just the final alarm bell.

What Anger in Parenting Is Really About

Here’s what we’ve learned through years of personal growth, coaching, and a lot of trial and error: Anger isn’t bad. It’s not shameful. It’s not proof that you’re doing anything wrong.

It’s a signal.

It’s your body saying:

• “I feel unsafe.”

• “I’m overwhelmed.”

• “I need help and I don’t know how to ask for it.”

  
  

Most of us were never taught how to regulate our emotions. Especially if you grew up in a house where yelling, shutting down, or perfectionism were the norm.

Now? We’re parenting while also trying to rewire everything we’ve inherited. And that’s exhausting.

Signs You’re Emotionally Dysregulated (Before You Snap)

Sometimes the hardest part is even realizing that you're dysregulated until it's too late. Here are a few common signs we talked about in the episode:

• Your heart races at every interruption

• You feel overstimulated by noise, clutter, or demands

• You go from 0 to 100 in seconds

• You’re constantly on edge or feel like you’re “waiting for the next thing to go wrong”

  
  

The more you can notice the pre-snap moments, the more power you have to shift them.

What Helps Us Regulate in the Moment

When we sat down to have this conversation, we shared the exact tools we use in real life—not theory. Real tools that work when your kid is melting down and you just got a Slack message about a missed deadline.

Here are a few:

• Deep belly breathing with your hand on your heart and gut

• Taking a “reset” walk outside for 2 minutes (yes, even with your toddler)

• Using music to change the energy in the room (kitchen dance party, anyone?)

• Saying out loud: “I’m feeling overwhelmed, and I need a minute.”

  
  

The goal isn't perfection. It's interruption. Interrupting the cycle before it becomes a full-blown explosion.

You’re Not Alone—and You’re Not Failing

If you’ve ever cried behind a locked bathroom door or laid in bed at night replaying every moment you wish you handled differently… you’re not alone.

You’re human.

And being a mom and an entrepreneur is going to bring stuff up. That doesn’t mean you’re unqualified to raise amazing kids. It means you're growing—and that deserves compassion, not shame.

This episode will feel like a breath of fresh air if you’ve been silently carrying the weight of guilt, reactivity, or emotional exhaustion.

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And if it resonates? Send it to a friend who needs the reminder too. We don’t have to do this alone.